Let’s Maintain a Little Mystery, Shall We?

Every time the topic of social media comes up, my response usually involves some sort of quick jab about how such platforms can be “double-edged swords”. If you catch me on a good day, I may even sing praises about how Instagram has warranted me some dynamic opportunities including past collaborations, creating new friendships and discovering some of the purest forms of creative inspiration imaginable.

Yet, just as there are those fellow souls who merely use social media as a means to stay entertained, there are also those who rely solely on its existence as outlets to the matters surrounding their personal lives. Yep, you know who I’m talking about – in fact, you probably just said a name, or two, out loud. You definitely know the type… every instance where they get into a confrontation with their boyfriend/family member/sibling/co-worker/friend… you name it. Within minutes of it happening, its all over the ‘Gram or Facebook. I’m not a huge fan of such antics.

I was raised to always keep in mind that my business is my business. My momma would always say to me, “What happens in my house, stays in my house.” So, partly, that’s exactly why I feel the way I do to this present day. I believe that part of the reason I am able to maintain an ounce of peace within my life, is based on the fact that my drama is not spread all over the damn internets. There is a time a a place for everything, and social media is not your therapist nor your counselor. The influx of comments aren’t going to help you come to a logical conclusion about the fallout with your mother or the relationship issues you are enduring with your significant other; in fact, they just may do the opposite: skip the commenting, screenshot your rant and post it in the group chat with a bunch of other randoms.

Maintain a little mystery, people. Everything is not meant for everyone to know. Move in silence and let your actions do the talking. Let’s make more moves and less announcements! I can’t tell you how much it grinds my gears to see a personal argument, plastered underneath someone’s status or post, transition that dialogue into the text message route. Don’t present others with the luxury of knowing all your business, sometimes even better than you do. Find other ways to release your frustrations – write it in a journal, apply that negative energy into creating something positive, talk face-to-face with the person who you have the issue with – be mature about how you handle your conflict. The streets are definitely watching, and their talking will persist. But, you have the power to control your narrative.

“In a world where everyone is over exposed, the coolest thing you can do is maintain your mystery.”

-Unknown