For the longest time, I was hesitant to showcase my femininity. I refused to wear dresses, I cringed at flashing any hint of my curves and I was convinced that my internal strength and intellectualism would be my saving grace.
Yet, I started to become too masculine. I almost neglected my standard beauty routine, I could see a major transition in the way I presented myself and I didn’t feel as confident within my own skin. Eventually, I started to feel like my true essence of being a woman was compromised. Change is a catalyst that has the undying capacity to make you feel your most uncomfortable, and that’s what hit me hard. Until this day, I’m not sure what sparked such a significant alteration within my lifestyle. I’m just happy I found myself again.
Ladies, do not let anything nor anyone rob you of your femininity! Embrace it all, not only in the physical sense but in the spiritual, mental and emotional as well. Openly practice your faith – pray often, hold weekly bible studies for yourself, listen to motivational speakers. Radiate creativity and sensitivity. Write down your goals. Read books on subjects that interest you. Be picky with who you surround yourself with. Be picky with who you date; hell, it’s your right to. Practice gentleness, elegance and poise.
Of course, there are a few self-care topics are also pretty evident – maintain your nails, exercise, adopt a healthy diet that fits your lifestyle, learn how to do your own make-up and elevate the way you dress. Show off your figure from time to time! Drink tons of water. Make it a goal to discover your hair, learn its ways. Maintain those annual doctor’s appointments. Make it a point to get back to you.
Now, this isn’t going to happen overnight, but, that’s the beauty of the process. It’s always comforting to know that you are working towards an end objective, that only you can gage and secretly keep track of. My personal feminine journey pushed me to revamp my entire wardrobe, filter the content that I take in, it has allowed me to gain a closer walk with God and introduced me to hobbies I didn’t even know I had (Hey, cooking! Watch out Chrissy Teigen.) I now find inspiration in every facet of life, only to dish it back into the universe. It’s a beautiful thing.
I have realized that I love myself too damn much to hinder any of my potential to create a refined version of myself. Femininity is a dying trait within our current society. A large majority of women perceive femininity as “weakness”, but in actuality, it’s all the authority you will ever need. Don’t sleep on it.
“A woman who embraces her femininity is a woman who knows her power.”
Photography by: My girl, Bi Be, @Gau2708 via Instagram. Follow her!